A Long Walk

Here I was, in the very part of the world that I had written about in my journal two years prior, and with someone I wanted to be with for the rest of my life. Someone who had once loved me as much as I loved him. I had literally dream about and had premonitions of being here...and it all had materialized because I’d finally met him. It seemed meant to be.

But I had ruined the happiness we’d shared, the way I always did in the end. I’d hurt him and caused him to mistrust me. He was falling out of love with me because of my own selfishness, dishonesty, drinking habits and need for instant gratification that I could not control. And above all, my in-ability to be truly happy, which not even I could understand.

I needed to walk, to get away somewhere; anywhere. The thoughts and feelings I was experiencing were coming to a head in my mind, threatening to boil over in the form of an emotional breakdown. Stepping out, I closed and locked the front door behind me and slipped the silver skeleton key under the door mat for him. It was 4 p.m. and I knew I wouldn’t be back before he came home from work and from his nightly round at the local pub, usually around six.

I started out down his long steep driveway, feet stumbling on the loose gravel and dirt, resisting the urge to run and likely slip backwards. It was (as usual) cool and grey that afternoon with a fine mist of drizzly rain. I pulled on his cozy sage-green hoodie, along with his favorite Newcastle football cap. Shoving my hands in my pockets, I began to walk blindly with my head down, wanting to get lost somewhere amongst the narrow stone roads and rolling, multi-colored patchwork hills of the English country side.

Along the way I stopped to chat up a couple of shaggy Clydesdale horses in a field, both staring at me with gentle eyes as I soothingly spoke to them. From my side of the fence I picked a handful of tall green grass and offered a fistful to the closest one. He accepted it, his warm muzzle tickling my open palm. The other horse stamped and snorted with steamy breath.

I wished then that I were a horse, oblivious to the human trials of heartache and confusion.

Continuing down the path a mile or so, I came to a main T-section road. My option to the left would lead towards the bustling little village, with its huge old church, and pubs with names like “The Woolpack” and cars that drove on the wrong side of the road. So I chose to head right, which was unfamiliar. The rain had begun to pick up harder now, and I gratefully pulled the brim of his hat lower over my eyes.

It was May. I’d been living with him for roughly 5 months. We’d met by coincidence through a mutual friend in Fall of the previous year in Chicago, where he’d been visiting on a business trip. Handsome, charming and 10 years my senior, over the course of the next couple months we’d fallen intoxicatingly in love. He was everything I could ask for in a man: intelligent, compassionate, witty, successful and well travelled... (And what American woman isn’t a sucker for an English accent?)

I’d never experienced anything like the way I felt around him; we absolutely adored each other. We spent many evenings talking, laughing and sharing secrets in my kitchen. Our dates were so utterly amazing I had to pinch myself to make sure he was real. We made each other laugh to the point of tears. Our kisses were effortless and perfect and when I was in his arms, nothing and no one else mattered. This was “IT.” Sure, we were from different countries and lived 4000 miles away from each other, but it changed nothing about the way we felt. So towards the end of those few glorious months in Chicago, before returning home to UK, I was deeply touched and ecstatic when he proposed to fly me out and stay with him for a few weeks. I would have happily followed him to Nebraska, never mind beautiful England.

Now I found myself still here with him, five months later. Neither of us had wanted to be apart from each other. Lately though, things had taken a 180 degree turn for the worse, something I knew I was 90% if not completely at fault for.

In the distant grey haze, a black cat ran across an ancient stone wall. I loved the moss covered slate walls, painstakingly built hundreds of years before and perpetually damp, smelling of earth. I was constantly pointing them out and admiring them (much to his amusement). But we had nothing like it I’d ever seen before in the States. England was filled with such a wonderful sense of history, which made being there all the more special to me. So, even the old stone walls that most Brits took for granted as part of the everyday scenery deeply moved me.

The cat had disappeared from the length of the four foot high wall. I thought of my own beloved tabby a close friend back home was caring for, and hoped the little stray had a safe and dry shelter nearby.

Soon I came across another impossibly steep hill to the left, leading to what I guessed to be a small residential area. The back of my thighs burned in protest as I leaned forward against the now gusty wind and rain. Almost to the top, I was beckoned to my right by a secluded path with narrow stone steps leading up to a dense trail. It was marked with a “Private Property” sign but I walked through anyway.

Climbing the narrow steps I was suddenly enveloped by a vibrant rich green canopy cover. The trees were lined in dense rows on each side of me and their branches engulfed each other above me. It was suddenly darker and quieter here in this private shrub cave... the only sound being the occasional bird call and the steady drum of the cold rain, which was muffled by the thick leafy ceiling. It was here on these old stone steps that I sat down, mostly shielded, but with the odd fat droplet filtering through and splattering on my shoulder or nose.

I reached in my pocket for the cigarette I had shakily rolled before venturing out for my walk. Exhaling deeply, I thought of him and the situation we now found ourselves in. I loved him more than I had ever loved a person, but deep down I wasn’t happy with myself. And if I didn’t accept myself, I knew I couldn’t allow someone to love and truly accept me. WHY was I this way? This ugly “dark side” lurking in the depths of my soul...I wanted it out and gone forever. So if I consciously knew I was wrong and wanted to change, why was it so damn hard to do it? I felt imprisoned by myself and some unnamed entity I was put on this earth to understand and conquer. A struggle that’d been inside me for one thousand years...one that I desperately wanted to overcome.

Just then, I regressed 25 years. Living out of that Caprice with a drug-addict Mother. Three-day benders. Her stabbing my Father in the chest, the look in his eyes while pleading for help. Child molestation charges. Constant fighting, drinking, prostitution, drugs, maggots, police...autopsy reports, death certificates. The emotionally and physically abusive Foster Family.

And then... me. Frightened and alone. Needing love. Needing it then, needing it now. Love is such a seemingly simple yet elusive thing.

Now when I looked into his eyes, which had once lit up with complete adoration for me, I saw nothing or hurt and disappointment. Each night I would search his face for any faint glimmer of recognition, but we were like strangers living in the same house now. Every day I’d have to acknowledge the fact that I had single-handedly sabotaged our special bond, because within the week I’d be flying back to the States. Going home heartbroken, ashamed and alone. Always alone.

He was everything to me; I would have done anything for him...anything except change.

I pulled my knees into my chest, lowered my head & cried. What had I done? How had I allowed this to happen? What was wrong with me? Openly sobbing and shaking, I repeatedly whispered, “I’m sorry, I’m so sorry...” to no one. The whole experience we’d been through was surreal to me, and I found myself silently begging to whatever universal force was out there to let me rewind the past and give me another chance to make things right. I needed help. And yet...deep down, I knew it was over. Too much had happened between us now and our time together had come to an end. It was a knowledge that filled me with an overwhelming sadness.

I lifted my head. Had an hour gone by? I had no watch or phone on me, but judging from the darkness that had fallen I guessed it must have been close to 7 pm. I shivered from the cold that surrounded me. Slowly picking myself up, I concentrated on forming a permanent mental image of this place and time I stood in. The private tree den that was, for that moment, mine. The smell of wet green earth, rotting leaves and cold cement. Eerie grey mist floating above the gentle slopes of the Greenbelt in the distance. I felt the trees and earth had witnessed my bare soul and had wept along with me and for me. At once, a strong intuitive knowingness that I would again come back to this part of the world came over my senses and I was slightly comforted in a bittersweet way. It was an inevitable part of me now.

With a final look around at the special place I’d found, I descended the foot path, walked back down the hill and again through the narrow dirt roads. Slowly I crunched up the winding steep gravel driveway that led to his pale brick house. His car was there and the front room light was on, an image which once had filled me with warmth and happiness. Now I felt empty and defeated as I bent down to retrieve the key, preparing myself for the fake and forced exchanges which were about to take place.

Yet at the same time...I was hopeful.

With a deep sigh, I walked inside to him. Him and his now broken and closed off heart.

- THE END -

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