Love

In the dictionary love is defined as: a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person or sometimes it is also a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend. And finally the one most people can relate to... Love is a feeling of sexual passion or desire. Now I’m not saying that this is my take on the whole love situation, I’m merely speculating that this, in my opinion, is the most common type of love. It is a common saying that one can fall in love on a Saturday night and fall out of it again on a Sunday morning.

So is love where you find yourself completely lost in someone’s eyes? Or is it where time goes by so quickly in their company? Or is love when the touch of their hand fills you with butterflies? Granted this is an idyllic opinion on love and not always found in modern relationships, but some die-hard romantics still believe in these views. Some still like to believe that childhood sweethearts will stay together forever or that they will find their soul mate somewhere out there in this big, bad world. But is it right to believe in finding your soul mate? In this day and age there are no limits to where one can search for their soul mate, and with the introduction and meteoric rise in popularity of internet dating there are no limits as to where your other half may be waiting. But is this a false way of finding love? With so many people now looking for love on the internet is it actually possible to find Mr. or Mrs. Right? Well they do say that variety is the spice of life so perhaps this is the modern way and the inevitable future of dating.

One of the major flaws consistently spoken about internet dating is the fact that not everyone is who they say they are and can hide behind fake profile pictures and fake personalities. Granted many people in person are also guilty of this but the internet allows for so many more con artists to deceive these men and women. It has allowed these criminals to prey on the desperation of some of these people as they have been able to deceive these people into sending them money or giving up their bank details. It is an unfortunate trend that is becoming all too popular in these times and with the ever growing popularity of these dating sites it seems as though the trend is going to continue.

But that is of course the negative outlook to looking for love, there is nothing to say that your soul mate is not only a few clicks of a mouse away as these sites are filled with people who have indeed found true love on the internet.

It always reminds me of a story I heard before in the pub (where else would you hear a story like this), where an old fella’ was sitting at the bar sipping away on his pint regaling another drinker his tale of how he found true love online. He spoke of how he seen her picture and instantly fell in love! He contacted her and they “hit it off” he continued. He said how she had reluctantly agreed to leave her country and to come and live with him. (I should have guessed where the story was going at this stage really, but I’m an old romantic and wanted this to be a genuine love story). But alas it was not! He continued telling his story and after he got up to go to the toilet the bar man told the man the truth behind this man’s “fairytale” romance. He had believe it or not ordered himself a Russian bride, a young attractive bride by all accounts. Now I for one thought these Russian brides were only myths but I was wrong!

So my point in this story being, that you don’t always have to use dating sites to find love on the internet there are always alternatives and with so many nationalities now to chose from, your chances of “finding” love are ever increasing. Variety really is the spice of life!

But in all seriousness, love does not always follow the stereotypical Hollywood depictions does it? Not everybody is lucky enough to find a “Notebook” style relationship or find the type of relationship that is so often the core of every “chick-flick” But what’s to say that they are the perfect examples of true love stories? Are those couples who are together while they are both fighting drink and drug addictions any less in love than your idyllic couple? Love (strangely enough like the devil) takes many forms, and is the cause of euphoric happiness and also the cause of heartbreaking despair. Love can fill some people’s lives with the joy only those in love can experience but this all comes juxtaposed against those people who have felt this joy but who have now lost it. These people more often than not find themselves completely lost and have a void only those who have lost love can understand, a longing for things to return to the way they were. It’s a pain that’s heart-wrenching enough to make even the toughest of grown men break down in tears.

So my summation of love is this. If you are lucky enough to have found your soul mate then it is vital you do everything within your power to hold onto them. Cherish every little moment you have with them as you never know what the future may hold. And to those still searching for love my advice is this; keep searching, because you honestly never know where you will find it, you may have even found them and you just don’t realise yet.

And to those who don’t fit into either category my advice is this, save up enough money and you never know your soul mate maybe only one postal order away!

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